But delving into relationship gender roles isn't exactly the kind of thing that you can tackle in only one blog post - and plus - there's a good amount of suspense involved when you break things out into multiple blog posts, which (at least theoretically) helps to drive blog traffic. ---makes *cha-ching* sound and does one fist pump trucker style---
But let's get back on topic. I think a fairly good representation of this phenomenon of the decline of "man" is the emergence and relative acceptance as normal of the "Man Cave".
In preparation for this post, I Googled "Man Cave". This was the only action of preparation, so don't expect a bibliography or anything. But I wanted to see if there were already sites out there that were discussing how negative a man cave could be for a relationship, or delving into why, exactly, men need to have Man Caves.
I got nothing. I searched for a full-on five or ten minutes, so it was definitely an exhaustive search. If you can find something, please let me know, because I'd like to know I'm not the only one of the species, male or otherwise, that thinks these things are damaging to relationships. However, There were hundreds of sites describing how to properly set up your own man cave, asking for people to send in pictures of their man caves, places to shop for items you can stuff in your man cave, and Spanish Man Caves (wtf?).
I've now written "man cave" so much that it's starting to sound less like a place for dudes to hang out and more of a gross and hairy body part.
Look, I know people need their space every once in a while. I need to have some quiet the same way that my wife needs to have someone to blabber to. (just kidding, babe - I love talking to you). But I'm at work all day. I drive home and listen to the radio. I have so much time away from her that I can't imagine coming home and saying to her, "Hey look - I know we just saw each other for the first time today...but I've got some...uh...business to take care of in my Man Cave. Later!" Sounds like you're gonna need some...friction reducer.
I've got people at my work who are "happily" married, but end up sleeping in separate bedrooms because the other person snores, or they roll around too much, or a whole host of other reasons. So, let me get this straight. You're at work all day, you come home into your man cave, and you sleep in separate bedrooms? Why get married in the first place?
Didn't you marry your spouse so you could be with her forever after? Doesn't she make you crazy with happiness every time you look at her? Don't you love her personality so much that it's like a drug you need to get as much as you can every moment of the day?
Look, no one's saying that you shouldn't spend time with your dude-friends. Watch sports, drink beers, talk about whether or not a PanzerFaust could take out an incoming meteor, or if an Airplane on a treadmill would move. You know, things the ladies aren't interested in. But you didn't marry your buds. The establishment of a physical place to purposefully exclude your woman-love is not only unfair, it's reminiscent of prepubescent clubs for boys who haven't figured out that girls are awesome yet.
Disclaimer: Like the last post, I'd love to hear arguments. Every relationship works differently, and every person needs a different amount of space. But what I've outlined above is essentially just my own personal thoughts on the importance of being a close partner to your spouse.